I decided too listen to Brene Brown at TED talking about The Power of Vulnerability again.
I suspect most of us currently feel vulnerable to an extend. Perhaps some more than others, but I think we all share the feeling. If you have not watched the video before, take the 20 minutes to listen to it. Or perhaps listen again – I don’t know how many times I watched this already.
Also today Facebook reminds me of this quote from Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom. I have three copies of this book. Does it tell you something?
His latest aphorism: ” Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long.”
I made notes as I listened to the talk.
Brene Brown says: “Connection is why we are here!” I must keep on connecting via Whatsapp, phone, email, Facebook!
Morrie warns of not letting go too soon. In this time of lockdown, I think there is also a lot of mourning. Some people are in denial, others are negotiating. I do not know where I am on the road of mourning. But Morrie says I must allow my mourning to go its course and not hurry it. During Lockdown we are taking leave of a lot of things. The full impact we will only understand when lockdown comes to an end. Suddenly a neighbour at the door is a threat!
At the same time, says Morrie, don’t get stuck in with the things that you mourn. Step into the future. I say: create a new future for yourself and the world. Find out what really matters, determine your values, step out into a new world and create your future according to your values!
Brene Brown: “The difference between people who had strong sense of worthiness and belonging and those who are always struggling for worthiness and who believe they are not good enough? The people who have sense of love and belonging believe they are worthy of love and belonging.” Since I can identify with this sense of worthiness (or lack thereof), I was surprised the other day to discover how many people really battle with this!
Brene Brown – snippets: “Whole hearted people – they have courage – courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart – the courage to be imperfect, compassion to be kind to themselves first and to others – we cannot treat others kindly we cannot treat ourselves kindly
connection because of authenticity – they were wiling to let go of who they thought they should be and be who they really are.
They fully embrace vulnerability. What makes us vulnerable makes us beautiful
– To say “I love you” first
– To do things when there are no guarantees
Vulnerability is the birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging, love
We numb vulnerability when we wait for the result of the mammogram (or think of consequences of COVID 19)
We cannot selectively numb emotions! If we numb fear, we numb joy, gratitude, happiness- everything and then we look for purpose and meaning
We pretend that what we do has no effect on people
Let ourselves be seen – vulnerable
Love with our whole heart, even if there is no guarantee
Practice gratitude and lean into joy
Stop catastrophizing and be grateful
Vulnerable means I am alive
I AM ENOUGH – then we are kinder.“